The Tuohy's, Drive by Service, and Thoughts on Giving
The movie The Blindside and the story of Michael Oher and his relationship with the Tuohy's has got me thinking.
The last couple months of the year with the holidays in full force, people are often very tuned into the idea of giving and serving others.
This is good - I make no complaint. There may even be reason to suggest this time of year might even warrant a higher degree of service and giving.
Yet, sometimes I think we often check the box when it comes to giving of ourselves, time, and resources. We say "check" I did my good deed.
And I suppose checking the box by donating a little food to food pantry, giving an old coat to a local charity, and buying a toy for a less-well-off child is not to be scoffed at, especially when done in mass numbers.
Yet, I know for certain that most people can give more.
And yet, part of the reason we don't give more is because we typically only give out of the excess, giving in a way that doesn't really effect us. We grab the food out of the pantry that we don't really like or have no assigned intentions of using.
We may give to people in need around the holidays, but not to the point that we alter the way we celebrate.
And it's in this attitude, that we often do "drive by service."
It's fast, it's efficient, and it's done.
I think that is part of what is compelling about the story of Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy who's story of sacrifice is compelling, almost too big to be true, and it's real.
When the Tuohy family invite Michael Oher into their home and eventually into their family, they make a big commitment. They opened themselves up to something going utterly wrong, they took on cost. And not just financial cost, but surely a cost of some of their time, their energy, and their peace.
I think giving out of the excess is meaningful, but that giving with sacrifice is beautiful.
I think we have that opportunity in our current times more than ever.
That is what makes stories like we see in story of Sean & Leigh Anne Tuohy truly touching.
I think we want to give like that. I want to give like that.
Pictured above is the Sean Tuohy, Michael Oher & Leigh Anne Tuohy played in the movie the Blindside by Tim McGraw, Quinton Aaron & Sandra Bullock. Photo from Go Memphis.
3 comments:
The Tuohys "service" was agenda laden and money, fame and sports crazed driven. Follow the money: they were in debt; they had a friend write a book, Michael Lewis who Sean went to school with, to eventually finance the film. They exploited the story and Michael, to the fullest, for their own gain. They started their own church, for money and power, and now this. They seem like controlling meglo-maniacs who hide behind these so called "charitable nature" that just so happens to make them money all the time. The movie was Hollywood white wash, not reality. They seem to have an insatiable need for attention, and money. Maybe someday Michael will not have be acting in servitude toward them, and can just accept he was exploited by very flawed people, and find peace in real situations. He truly has the heart in the story. The only one.
I truly feel pity for someone who is so bitter and scorned that you can truly take a heartfelt story and turn it into something negative and dirty. It shows just how low our world has fallen that you need to impose your unhappiness on everyone else. The golden rule is the true lesson from the movie apparently that fell on deaf ears.
@ anon 1 & anon 2 ---
It's interesting - why is it that we are so quick to judge? Anon 1, who are you to judge the motives behind the Tuohy's hearts? I think there is time's when people do try to "polish the outside of the cup" and try to put on a face of good will when the inside if full of death...but to say something like "they seem like meglo-maniacs" is pretty harsh w/o trully knowing them.
Anon 2, I hope that if you felt like this is the message of the film, that you don't just complain about it falling on deaf ears...if you experienced such a message, I hope your ears heard that message and are acting it out. If you heard (and act on) the message it did not fall on deaf ears.
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