Comments on Strange Culture: Community: The Challenges Post College

"It's strange. I think we all have an innate need ...

2008-03-27T15:07:08.550-06:00

"It's strange. I think we all have an innate need for community and relationships with others, yet its often hard to determine why this is such a challenging need to meet."

This resonated with me. With four kids, one of whom is pretty sick right now, a demanding job, a dog, and an old house that is falling apart, community is what I crave but can't fulfill--at least the way I think it should be fulfilled.

Stepping back, I am thrilled at my responsibility, and realize at this point in my life, my family is "my community."

I haven't been by here in a while...best regards to you and your wife as you anticipate your first child!

@ ak, we miss you guys tons!@ scott & ma, it's rea...

2008-03-26T21:19:52.819-06:00

@ ak, we miss you guys tons!

@ scott & ma, it's really a bummer to me that the reality of life stages means an even greater struggle to develop relationships.

@ art, i know I'd love more diversity to my social interaction as well beyond church/work relationships. It's a struggle to know how to interact with more people without giving up more time.

I feel the same way. Most of the couples we're fri...

2008-03-26T11:16:54.452-06:00

I feel the same way. Most of the couples we're friendly with attend our church. Outside of that we just don't have that much opportunity for social interaction.

We have discussed this before. It is hard througho...

2008-03-26T10:23:38.877-06:00

We have discussed this before. It is hard throughout your whole life to have relationships as an individual or as couples. A lot of times, we meet a couple and really like one half of the couple and can't stand the other (usually the wife...)Then there is the issue that you are in different phases of your life, married, little ones, older children, so you do not always have the ability to socialize the same as you once did. We also find that we will go out of our way to plan things with other people and it is not reciprical, so sometimes it is easier to be be with the one you are with.

In addition to the marriage thing what we run into...

2008-03-26T08:27:56.827-06:00

In addition to the marriage thing what we run into is the parenting thing. Whther you can connect also depends on what ages your kids are if you have any. And it limits when you can get together and for how long.

It's amazing how being married throws so much extr...

2008-03-26T07:38:03.059-06:00

It's amazing how being married throws so much extra into the mix. It is truly a miracle to find a couple where we both like to be around both the husband and the wife of another couple and also like to be around them individually.

Have we mentioned that we miss you guys SO much? You will never be replaced!